Measuring love with data
How to measure compatibility without turning it into cold math, and what official marriage and divorce figures say.
Measuring love isn't reducing it to a number — it's giving yourselves a language for what matters. Here we explain how to measure compatibility by area and gather official statistics (INEGI in Mexico, INE in Spain) that give context to what millions of couples live.
How to measure love
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Read moreCan love be measured?
Not entirely — and not without respecting its mystery. But we can measure useful signals: how you communicate, how you repair after a fight, whether you share a project. That turns fuzzy feelings into concrete conversations.
Frequently asked questions
Where do the statistics come from?
From official sources: INEGI (Mexico) and INE (Spain), plus recognized research centers. We cite and link every figure.
Does a high score guarantee you'll last?
No. Scores help you talk, but no metric predicts the future of a specific relationship with certainty.
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