Triangular love test (intimacy, passion, commitment)
Is it true love or just one part? Per Sternberg, complete love combines intimacy, passion, and commitment. Measure them in 8 questions.
Psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed love has three ingredients: intimacy (closeness), passion (desire), and commitment (the decision to stay). When all three are present, he calls it 'consummate love.' This test measures yours and shows which kind of love dominates today.
The triangular theory of love
Robert Sternberg proposed love is made of three elements: intimacy (emotional closeness), passion (attraction and desire), and commitment (the decision to maintain the relationship). Their combinations give different 'kinds of love': liking (intimacy only), infatuation (passion only), empty love (commitment only), romantic love (intimacy + passion), companionate love (intimacy + commitment), fatuous love (passion + commitment), and, with all three, consummate love.
Your per-dimension breakdown tells you which kind dominates today. It's a reflective tool, not a verdict.
How your result is calculated
Each answer adds to a total and to three dimensions (intimacy, passion, commitment). The total reflects how complete love is today; the breakdown, which ingredient dominates. All three can be cultivated.
All the quiz questions
Do you share your deepest thoughts and feelings with your partner?
Is there still desire and attraction between you?
Are you decided to keep the relationship long-term?
Do you feel your partner understands and supports you?
Do you feel excitement or 'butterflies' thinking about your partner?
Do you work together to overcome problems instead of giving up?
Can you count on your partner in hard moments?
Do you do things to keep the spark alive (dates, surprises, play)?
- Sternberg, R. J. (1986). A triangular theory of love. Psychological Review, 93(2), 119–135.
- Spanish summaries — La Mente es Maravillosa / Psicología y Mente
Frequently asked questions
What is consummate love?
For Sternberg, it's love that combines all three ingredients — intimacy, passion, and commitment — in balance. It's the most complete and also the hardest to sustain over time.
Is low passion bad?
Not necessarily. Passion naturally fluctuates; what matters is tending it on purpose. A relationship with strong intimacy and commitment can rekindle passion.
Does this test say if it's true love?
It shows which ingredients of love are present today. 'True' isn't a switch: it's something built by cultivating all three components.
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